How To Flirt with Girls by Joseph Matthews
added: 10/12/2009
Let me ask you a question...
Do you have a favorite woman, yet despite all your romantic efforts, you remain just friends?
Well, there is a reason that happened!
More than likely you did know how to flirt with her properly.
Since flirting is a vital element in the process of attraction and you do not do it correctly, or even worse, not at all, you may be leaving your opportunity to be with the woman up to chance.
What is the importance of flirting?
The answer is simple really; the process of flirting creates sexual tension.
When there is no sexual tension within your interactions, there will be no attraction. When you do not have attraction, this places you in a different category.
That is correct - you're a friend!
So when you know the proper way to flirt with a girl, your chances of attracting her go up exponentially.
And the secret is - flirting isn't really as hard as many people think. In fact, it can be a lot of fun. The only time flirting doesn't work is when it's done WRONG.
The art of flirting with women is all about communicating your romantic interest in the woman rather than just letting the cat out of the bag.
Mixed signals are what this is.
Your actions are communicating one thing, but your words are saying something completely different.
Here are some common mistakes most guys make when flirting with girls:
MISTAKE #1: They Are Too Obvious
Too many guys get excited about the women they are attracted to, and will come out and say exactly what they are feeling. What they don't realize is that when presented with this information, the girl is then forced to make a judgment, right then and there, about how she feels about THEM.
Keep in mind, by not laying the groundwork properly beforehand, you risk the chance of finding rejection from the woman.
MISTAKE #2: They Aren't Obvious Enough!
On the flip side of that coin are the guys who communicate NO INTEREST AT ALL, yet in their minds they think that the girl should know how they are feeling. Then, when they make their move, the girl is surprised because up to this point, she had no idea the guy was interested in her!
MISTAKE #3: Relying On Words Rather Than Actions
Although, flirting includes what you say and the way you say it, the most powerful performance comes from your non-verbal body language. The small simple things like raising an eyebrow, tilting your head to one side and that wicked little grin, that carries the most meaning in a seemingly innocent remark.
MISTAKE #4: Taking Things Too Seriously
Flirting is fun and light when done properly. When men begin adding serious romantic gestures with flirting, the sexual tension begins to break down.
When you or the woman is not enjoying the flirting, something is wrong.
We could list more mistakes; however, this should provide you with a clear picture. Do you wonder what the right way to begin flirting is?
Use as many sexual overtones as possible, this is a good way to flirt, however, you must keep it subtle.
So for instance, if you're at a bar, and the girl you're with orders a drink and then turns to you and asks if you'd like something, you could jokingly say - "You're not trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me, are you?" (Of course, this is said with a wink and a nod.)
Flirting communicates your attraction, although you never come right out and say it. Flirting is a lighthearted fun form of insinuation.
On the other hand, when a woman says something temptingly naughty to you, you might say to her, Stop trying to seduce me, you minx! You know I don't do that on the first date.
Consider how this works.
After you begin flirting more often, you will begin to be more apparent concerning your interests, without ever crossing that line.
As you do this, you'll begin to notice how the attraction between you and the girl starts to build and build. And before you know it, that harmless flirting becomes an outright SEDUCTION.
And that is when the real fun begins.
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