This Trait Is Critical For
Success With Women
by Paul Janka
added: 10/10/2009
Today I'd like to talk about an important principle that's crucial to your success with
women: DETACHMENT. This mindset serves you well in 3 separate areas.
First, there's the initial interaction during the day. Let's say you spot an attractive woman and you walk up beside her. You'd like to get talking to her so you look for something you can use as a shared point-of-view.
You spot a commotion going on in the park. A large group of people is demonstrating while waving flags.
"I wonder what's happening over there", you say to her. "Do you know what's going on?"
"Go away", she says as she turns and walks away in a huff. Now, at this point you can do one of three things:
1) Fruitlessly continue to pursue her, only to receive an even nastier verbal barrage.
2) Lose all your interest in being outside on such a sunny glorious day, opting to go home and cry in your Corn Flakes because a little girl was mean to you.
3) Shake it off and find another woman on the next block who wants to talk to you.
I hope you picked Number 3 because it's the right answer. Inevitably, when you're approaching attractive women on the street, you're going to get shot down.
99 times out of 100 it won't be as harsh as the rebuff I describe above. But it will still do its best to mess up your mojo... unless you become a master of DETACHMENT.
By staying detached, you keep your MOJO strong and generate the energy that keeps you going. Three more phone numbers and you've forgotten the rude brush-off.
Second, detachment is useful if a woman who is in your apartment isn't ready to play. There you are, in your place, and you're moving in for the kiss. For whatever reason, she pushes you away and firmly says no to any more advances. (When a woman gives you a firm "No", it's a firm no.)
Here, detachment comes in handy to help keep your self-respect intact. Most guys would end up feeling rejected or beat themselves up when this happens. But detachment from the situation keeps you on a steady course.
The third result of detachment is that it keeps you from "falling in love". When you have several women on rotation in your life, you are much less likely to develop those overwhelming desires to "confess your love" to her.
You just won't be thinking about her that much because you're not "starved" for affection.
In fact, this is an almost sure-fire tactic to get women to completely fall in love with you. A man in demand triggers a storm of attraction inside a woman's psyche.
Now, as I've said before, you may be looking for the "one" girl of your dreams... and that's okay. But I still advocate DETACHMENT and seeing multiple women until you're 100% sure... which can (and should) take a while. And why not enjoy yourself first as a single man while you have the chance?
Ironically, when you start living an abundant single lifestyle to its fullest, THAT's when more opportunities to find the "one" will present themselves to you. You may be amazed at the array of choices you have with women once you enact this new paradigm of "playboy".
About Paul Janka
Paul Janka is a 33 year-old writer, actor, and entrepreneur who has mastered the art of pick-up and seduction. In the years between serious relationships, Janka has spent considerable time and effort developing a system for attracting and sleeping with beautiful women.
If you would like to learn more about Paul's products and training programs, please visit his site: attractionformula.com
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