Secrets To Approaching
Beautiful Women
by Joseph Matthews
added: 10/14/2009
Every man out there should learn how to approach women, because if he doesn't, he is missing out on the vital first step for finding the girl of his dreams and forming a relationship with her...
It's important that you know how to approach a girl the right way. Let's go over some tactics that will help you to be more successful than the average guy.
Remember a situation where you were going to approach a girl, and before you could even get a single word out, she freaked out and simply rejected you?
It wasn't anything you were about to say, or even your intentions. She might have really liked you if you approached her in a different way. But once you freak out a girl, it's not easy to turn that situation around.
The most important thing to remember when approaching women is to come off as NON-THREATENING and to not, under any circumstances, telegraph your interest in them too early.
This is known as "coming in under the radar."
You have to understand that most attractive women get hit on CONSTANTLY, so they've trained themselves to simply reject guys at the first sign they're out to pick them up.
This is because women get hit on SO MUCH by men, they just don't want to deal with yet another guy coming up and wasting their time.
But despite all this, the girl WILL be receptive to you if you know how to approach her in the RIGHT WAY.
I guess the big question is - what's the right way to approach a woman?
The first secret is - DO NOT HESITATE!
If you wait too long before approaching a girl, you'll probably talk yourself out of doing it. Be focused, and like Nike - JUST DO IT.
Secondly, know what you're going to start the conversation with BEFORE you approach the girl. This will make meeting women much easier because you don't have to spend time thinking of what to say before you feel comfortable walking up to meet her.
So having a good pick-up line in your hip pocket to use in these situations is probably a good idea.
But don't confuse the term "pick up line" with sleazy saying like "Nice shoes, let's have sex!" The goal here is to be NON-THREATENING, remember?
The best lines usually engage the girl in an innocent conversation. You can do so by asking her opinion on something and then following that up with more questions.
When approaching a woman, it's important that you approach her from an ANGLE. Most guys charge towards the girl they want to meet like they're marching to war! Coming in at an angle is much less confrontational and will put the girl at ease on a subconscious level.
The simple fact is - great pick-ups can only occur when the girl you are talking to feels comfortable with you! That's why you need to feel comfortable talking to the girl.
If you feel uncomfortable approaching women, the best way to build your comfort level is to go out and practice meeting as many women as you can until you GET comfortable with it!
Let me tell you - getting good at approaching women is not going to happen if all you do is read about it or study it! You actually have to DO it so you can build your level of experience. (Trust me, it gets easier the more you do it).
Don't be afraid of getting rejected when you do this. Look at it as a game and distance yourself from the outcome. You're not trying to get a date or get her into bed, your only goal is to talk to her and strike up a conversation. If you do that, you win!
That's all!
This is a numbers game. The more women you talk to, the easier it is. See how many you can talk to in a day and keep trying to beat your score.
One last note - try and use a "time constraint" whenever you approach a woman. This is as easy as saying you can only talk for a minute before you have to run.
Effective use of time constraints will better engage the woman you're talking to, because she won't feel that she's committing to a time-consuming endeavor. Instead, you're only a momentary "distraction." This helps eliminate any reason to reject you right off the bat.
The beauty of this is that if the conversation picks up and is going well, she'll forget that you used a time constraint, and you can actually talk to her as long as you want. Using a good time constraint is just a way to make the approach easier in the beginning.
The dating game is a numbers game. The more women you're able to meet, the greater your chances at finding a great girlfriend, and possibly even a future wife.
About Joseph Matthews
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